Not a shouty Mum

I made a lot of New Years resolutions, as I do every year. Mainly about being more organised, losing weight, excersising more etc etc. And although I am still attempting to stick to them it’s very hit and miss.

One thing I have stuck to is stopping shouting at the kids. Things were getting very shouty in our house. The girls were shouting at each other and us, I was shouting at them to stop shouting and they were shouting at me, sometimes even growling! (This, I think they got from when I attempted to shout quietly at them!)

So a month after resolving not to shout at the girls, I am really seeing the benefits of it and feeling terribly guilty that their behaviour was so impacted by mine. Albeit by me attempting to make them behave.

I have to say that I am not a saint and have raised my voice when Lotta attempted to “help” Molly roll over or run off near a road. But I have really thought about why they are behaving the way they were and 9 times out of 10 it was because they needed me and I was distracted/busy. All I was showing them was how I handled being under pressure (shouting) and they were copying!

I’ve not been growled or shouted at for at least 3 weeks, I’ve stopped being driven by cleaning up, just whipping the Hoover round when they wanted to do something or rushing them out the door in a rush and am more organised. We’re ready for school 10 mins before we have to leave so no more screaming at them to put their shoes on for the 100th time!

It really has made our house a happier one and I feel like I’m really trying to understand the why’s of the girls behaviour rather than just the behaviour itself! ┬áThis is one resolution I’m definitely keeping!!

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January 2015: happy days

Here’s the things that have made me happy/greatful in Jan

  1. Molly giggled for the first time – heart melted! She’s still quite sparing with the belly laughs and I have to work hard to get one but she’s such a happy, chilled out girl I don’t mind
  2. Ella has been struggling to really engage with reading at school and while we still have a long way to go, she actually read a whole school book to us ( riveting read “in a pit”) and she was so proud of herself
  3. Progress with the house has moved on a lot this month. Ordered a carpet for the hall and stairs, our rooms painted, downstairs loo has been finished. Really feels like it’s coming together. Next step big wall knocking down and extension!!
  4. Re-connecting with Lotta. Really enjoying spending time with her whilst on maternity
  5. Working out the finances and realising it will cost me what I earn to go back to work before September so extending my maternity till then
  6. Getting back into blogging. Mainly via photos on Instagram. Have lots of things I want to write about and going to get cracking in Feb with that